Myth about College Life: My perspective about my four years

Hi guys, I am a bit late for this week but here we are.

I graduated one year ago in 2019. My bachelors was four years long and I had so many experiences throughout those years. I have faced the worst parts of my life there, in that college. But, this post isn't going to be about my cries because I'm sure no one would even care. I will here mention some of the situations we generally expect or think that college has or will have but in reality, such scenarios don't happen at all. Or at least not the way we think.

This will probably give a reality check to those who are going to enter the college life ahead and hope would feel like a short series of reminders to those, who have already finished.

I would like to start my post with something highly spoken about,

#Friendship

1. Your circle of friends might be just guys or just girls and not the way the movies show, which is the right mixture of both.

2. You will lose more people than you expect. Especially the people you fear losing or those you think that you would never lose.

3. You will understand that life gets real from here. You don't always meet all the people you love. But, those who love you, stay there.

#FashionParade

I was watching a YouTube animator's video, it was either Odd1stout or Domics, and he mentioned that 'Nobody cares about how you look'. He adds on to say the most sensible thing I had ever heard 'Those who do, are nobody'.

To sum up your college life's fashion details, is this.

At the end of the day, you are going to look for your happy memories, not what you wore that day. Of course, basic hygiene is a must but, beyond that? Everything is superficial.

Learn to give no f*cks about what (even your closest friends) others say.

I was in a circle of friends who thought wearing leggings under a top seemed weird but, it suited my body type because I'm not that heavy down, and perhaps it didn't work with hers. So, she decided that nobody should wear that and those who did, are weird? Up until a year forward, she wore it (She looked absolutely normal) and my mind was like 'seriously dude?'

But, this ain't a sad story. Her words never stopped me. I continued wearing what I felt comfortable in. And, most of the time, I wore whatever made me feel the day. I have had amazing days where I dressed like I'm going to the red carpet show, regardless of whether it would be exam days and I wore nothing fancy for my own orientation in Masters and convocation of my batch mates. Well, mood. So, do you. And the rest of the world will take care of itself.

But boys, 'nahaya karo please' (please bathe often, if not daily. It is good for you....and others.. especially your gf....if you have any?! Ok sorry. .)

#Studies

Let's talk about 'jo karne aate hain' (what we are here to do).

Padhai @studies.

1. Only some. Wait! Few. No. Rarely any professor would care if you study or not. They are there to teach (ahm... let's assume that) and they are just gonna do the job and leave you to it.

2. No! More number of pages doesn't really mean more marks. I don't want to be the kind of stupid senior, who gives such advice. You have to know the topic at least a bit to make up a story. You can't write Yash raj's film plot. And most teachers, read. There are very slight chances that the examiner is looking for the number of pages because yk what? I only wrote what I knew and I got marks enough to secure my masters in merit. So, learn. For yourself!!!!

3. Look for alternatives. Make time for learning outside of the course material but, about the course. Nobody is going to find out your interest for you. You have to do that for yourself. Everyone will be questioning 'what next' as you reach your finals but nobody will guide you on what to do. So, here is a tip. Find what you like. It might be somewhere out there, a subtopic or in an article, you read in the journal from your library. Not saying you have to pursue what you are studying. But, to know what you would love, you gotta know what you wouldn't. So don't be afraid if nothing interests you. You will surpass that phase if you keep looking because, for most years of my bachelors, I was pretty clueless about what I wanted. And I didn't want to jump into masters just for the sake of it because I was half regretting my four years and the way it went. But, here I am, doing something I have an interest in.

4. Look for genuine people who would want to guide you. Seniors who have passed out know what they are doing, at least in their career. If you have no one, the online world is there to guide you. Search and seek answers.

5. You can actually get questions out of the previous year's papers and you can't too. Prepare for exams well if you want to score well. Sometimes it can seem unfair to learn 50 topics for 5 marks etc but, if you split the work over the year, the burden would be reduced. Trust me, I did extra preparation for my internals in fourth year and there I was, scoring better than usual and my first internals was chill af.

#TrueLove

Nahi milta bhai. (You don't get it)

At least not in the way you think. You might. And you might not. (Please don't target me with comments saying I got someone. I am glad if you did).

You are probably going to be single and that's amazing. Because then you are free to do what you need to do. And, a lot of issues people bring these days in the name of relationships and friendship, is best to be avoided.

If you are committed, great. If you aren't. Even great.

Nobody has ever become happy by falling in love. You have to be happy about yourself. Life. Otherwise, that kind of happiness would never stay. (Experience)

#PartyAndAlcohol

I was fortunate enough to have friends who didn't drink actively. At least, not that I know of. (And chupke pi bhi rahe ho IDC)

And, I know people whose friends are like complete dudes who smoke and drink, yet the person isn't altered even a bit. So, in the end, it is all up to you.

Nobody forces you unless you allow yourself to be forced. And it isn't necessary you taste alcohol just for someone to be impressed by your 'coolness'.

No, I'm not against alcohol. Go ahead do it responsibly but, Don't do it illegally and for someone else's sake.

There are going to be parties but unlike Bollywood, no one would be selected to crash into someone's arms during a slow song. (Yes, damn the films. No 'take me back to the night')

You will get to dance. Sing. But it would probably be some local song. (Lagavelo jab lipistick. Please let me die.)

Clubs? Highly depends. You need not go to one if you don't like them. (And I am sure I didn't miss much.)

#RaggingAndHarrassment

Nobody cut my hair. Nobody made me sing, dance, strip (no Kabir Singh).

I was fortunate to have a campus that had active vigilance for such activity and seniors who were kind.

But, if you are facing situations, you should raise your voice.

Tell someone. Seek help. You deserve respect. If your senior demands respect out of you through those methods, he/she isn't deserving of it anyway. They aren't God, put on earth and you don't deserve to be treated that way.

I have never been part of physical bullying but, I have been part of subconscious harrassment by my own friends or atleast people who I thought were my friends.

Look for signs. Emotional abuse stems from somewhere where you give them the space to invade your days. Step out. Slowly.. Don't be afraid to seek help and find a better circle because (I can't assert this enough) you deserve better. Better friends. Better surroundings. You came here for your studies. To have your time of life. Nobody gets to take it away from you. And the person bullying you mentally probably has no idea about what effect it is having on you. So, if someone is unkind, first let them know. If it persists, go away. If it still does, make them come out in public as harrasser (even if you love them. I'm sorry if you are in such situations but, your brain already knows something is wrong. Trust that. Please take care of yourself and do both of you a favour by breaking up. Consequences otherwise are often more hurtful.) They would stop after it because they probably have an image to maintain and they would see that you aren't an easy target like they thought so.

Love yourself enough to be kind to yourself too

Love

Luna ♥

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#bekind #collegemyths

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PS: I was trying to upload the pictures of my graduation that I did on FB, but the blog won'y accept. The technical difficulties put me off more. But, I did my job.

Also, I was reluctant to actually write about this because this topic had sub sections that would merge and probably won't make sense to many and I am still technically in college (I didn't want people to have the wrong impression but, I just said what needed to be said).

I had the notes for the blog by thursday itself but the writing, I couldn't write up until yesterday morning.

I finalized it today and so here we are on tuesday. Sorry about it. But, I did what I could. The picture and memes remain in social media for the pleasure. ♥

Also, ty for the love to my previous blog.

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